Have I ever told you that I’m a very veryyy independent person? Maybe not, because I’m also a wildly stubborn person. Those two traits are both a blessing and a curse. They’re a blessing because I love how self-reliant I am. I don’t crumble at the thought of having to fend for myself, in fact I thrive on it. Tell me I have to go camping in the middle of nowhere all on my own and I’ll probably squeal with excitement before the thought of crying even crosses my mind. So…what’s the downfall of being little miss stubbornly independent?

I struggle letting people close and even more than that, I struggle letting people help me when I need it. I’m not great at accepting people’s compliments or kindness but that’s something I’m working on. I’ll never be perfect and that’s okay but there’s no also harm in bettering yourself and spreading a little kindness around. Don’t be a dick, it’s as simple as that.

At the age of 24 years, this girl here finally passed her driving test and bought herself a car. Whilst I am massively proud of myself for finally ticking ‘get a car’ off my bucket list. It’s not really anything to write home about. I mean, I’ll hazard a guess that at least 50 million people in the UK drive. Regardless of getting your pink license being a very common rite of passage, it’s still one I’m immensely proud of. After all, it means I can be even more independent and no longer have to rely on public transport, my little legs to walk 381 miles a day or awkwardly ask friends for lifts.

With that said, I’m truly grateful for all the tiny acts of kindness that friends have bestowed on me. With their latest #kindnesschangeslives campaign, Oxfam are asking people to share random acts of kindness. If you want to spread the positivity with a small act of kindness – you can make a small donation to those in need at I thought this would be the perfect opportunity for me to shout from the rooftops about how much those little acts of kindness can mean to someone…even someone as independent and stubborn as myself. Why not challenge yourself to do at least one act of kindness a day for the next week?

The simple things like asking a friend to go for a spontaneous brunch or coffee catch-up can mean more than you think. I love spontaneity but I also love those small moments like nipping for a coffee, so bundle the two together and you’ve got yourself one happy girl. The other week I went for lunch in the country with an old friend. We had the mother of all catch ups and apologized for our friendship distancing over the past year. Returning home feeling content after a few hours in the country, I quickly gave her the grand tour of my humble and tiny home before saying bye and promising to make plans soon. Later that day, she sent me a kind message saying how much happier I seem and telling me to be proud of recent achievements. That simple, short message brought a huge small to my face. She didn’t have to send that text but reading those words really meant a lot. It was a nice and simple reminder that I’m doing okay. So why not take a leaf out of her book and drop your friend a friendly text to pop a smile on their face? After all, it’s nice to be nice, right?

When getting my new car, another friend bought me the fluffiest keyring after I took a liking to hers. It was such a sweet thing of her to do and again, something she really didn’t have to do! That same friend also offered to buy me a coat that I was lusting after – I absolutely couldn’t let her do that so I politely declined. Despite refusing to let her do such a thing, I was so overwhelmed that she even offered. Y’know when you just get those friends that you feel totallllly blessed to have – that’s her. Putting others first is instinct to her and it’s a trait that I admire and appreciate so much. She’s a good egg and her kind nature always warms my heart.

I’m a firm believer that you have to surround yourself with good people. In recent years, I’ve realised that life is way too short to have your time and energy zapped by negative nellies. As a result, I keep my circle small but filled with positive people who inspire me daily. Sure, they all have their own trials and tribulations in life but they also have a positive mindset and they’re the kind of people who amaze me constantly. although surrounding yourself with such positive, ambitious people means pinning them down for a catch-up can sometimes be near impossible! I’m proud of each and every one of my friends but those little acts of kindness make me that teeny-tiny bit prouder to have such fab people around me.

To all those who put up with my stubborn, independent ways, thanks and I love ya all!

If you’re interested in finding out about Oxfam’s random acts of kindness campaign then have a little nosy at the below infographic to learn more:


  • WhatLydDid

    4th December 2017

    I’ll always be in awe of your independence, as you know, but I am really glad to read that you’ve been letting the right people in and reaping the rewards of their kindness, just as they do with yours xx


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