“It’s always the quiet ones…”. If I had a piece of cake for every time I’ve heard this phrase, I’d be happily drowning in a sea of delicious cake that even Bruce Bogtrotter from Matilda would be envious of. I’ve always been referred to as the ‘quiet one’.
Even in my end of High School Leavers’ Book my tutor made a remark about how I was the quiet one (it was something along the lines of “she’s friendly and funny, despite being so quiet”). Being the quiet one comes with so many negative misconceptions and false judgements. It’s almost as if being quiet is some kind of taboo.
Seriously, I’m tired of it and I feel it’s time for the ‘quiet one’ to speak up and put an end to some of those misconceptions.
What It Means To Be An Introvert
I’m an introvert, which means I find satisfaction from within. I don’t feel the need to share my thoughts, be involved in the action or be the center of attention 24/7. Considering I’m happy to pour my heat out on the internet, I guess that’s kind of an oxymoron isn’t it? But in general day-to-day life, I keep myself to myself and you’ll never see me fighting for the center-stage spot.
Sometimes, I’m happy to just sit on the side lines and take in everything that’s going on without having to comment on it all. You could say I’m a wallflower; a quiet observer. Though to so many extroverts, being introverted is beyond their realms of understanding. Many people think that if you’re an introvert you must lead a 2D life and be completely and utterly boring.
Does Being An Introvert Make You Boring?
Am I boring? Hell no! So why do people judge us this way, just because we’re quiet?
Being quiet adds an air of mystery. I don’t feel the need for people to know every inch of my life story. I’ve done some interesting things so far in my 21 years of life. I just don’t scream and shout about it. When I tell people that I’ve done a spontaneous 20 ft. free fall jump (it was 8am, I was hungover and it was honestly a brilliant hangover cure and use of £4), they are gobsmacked. They can’t believe that I would do that, simply because I’m quiet.
That makes no sense, what so ever. Being quiet doesn’t mean being void of any kind of personality or ability to have fun. Introverts simply just pay attention to their thoughts and feelings rather than focusing solely on the world around them.
I don’t mean to toot my own horn or anything but, I’m a right laugh. II’ve got a sharp wit and an even sharper-tongue which work together to create my dry sense of humour. You won’t see me presenting any comedy shows anytime soon but take the time to speak to me and you’ll see my personality starts to shine through.
The difference with being an introvert is simply that I just don’t feel it necessary to speak up and share my story with everyone. I’m really not interested in impressing anybody or captivating the attention of everyone around me. I’d rather keep people guessing, wondering what kind of things I’ve done, than just boast about it all the very first time I meet them. Yeah, I definitely prefer being an introvert, a lady of mystery.
The Difference Between Being An Introvert and Being Shy
Now, let’s just clear up one of the biggest misconceptions out there. Being an introvert and being shy are two completely different things.
Being quiet and introverted doesn’t mean lacking confidence. I’m happy in my own skin and I’m even happier when I’m pushing my boundaries and stepping out of my comfort zone. In fact, I thrive in environments that push my limits.
I once went to a music festival, on my own, with no way home. I worked as an Artist Liaison, looking after the music artists back stage, had access all areas, met some colourful characters and had an amazing time. Then, on the last day I just packed up my tent and hitch-hiked back home without any phone signal. Literally hitch-hiked. I had no way of contact anyone, was doing a job I’d never done before and most definitely didn’t have a meticulous plan.
Yet, because I’m quiet…I couldn’t surely have done such a thing. I’ve done a lot of things, that would ‘shock’ people because I can be so quiet. I’m quiet, but I’m confident. I love a spot of spontaneity, and the unknown excites me. So, just because someone is quiet, don’t be so quick to assume that they lack confidence or character. Please don’t assume that quiet is weak and loud is strong. It simply isn’t true. Some of the loudest people can be the most insecure, lacking confidence. While some of the quietest people can be the most self-assured and confident.
If I’m quiet, it must be because I have nothing interesting to say, right? Wrong. I just don’t always feel the need to engage in small talk. I apologise if that comes across as rude. Sometimes, I can be blunt and very to the point. Other times, I can hold deep, meaningful conversations. And sometimes, I love a good debate. There are somany topics of conversation that deeply interest me. Gosh, I could speak for days about certain topics. I just speak when I wish to. I can be the loudest person in the room if I want to. Some of us just choose not to be. By quietly observing I can learn a lot about the other people in the room…whilst they are just left wondering why I’m so quiet. Remember, the quietest person can have the loudest of minds.
What I Love About Being An Introvert
The thing I love most about being an introvert is that I march to the beat of my own drum. I don’t crave shallow, social relationships. That doesn’t mean I’m a total loner. I crave deep and meaningful social interaction. Believe it or not, I enjoy authentic company of a select few people rather than being in a large social setting. I don’t need to be surrounded by a sea of strangers to have fun. In fact, I can be happy in my own company. I don’t crave to fit in with crowd. I’m happy being me and going about things my own way. I’ve done so many exciting things in life and I plan to do so much more. I’m an introvert, I’m not boring and I’m not shy.
Next time you see the ‘quiet one’ in the room, don’t be so quick to judge them. There’s so much to them below that quiet surface. After all, a world without introverts would be a world with few great literary talent, musicians, artists or other creative souls. J.K. Rowling, Bill Gates, Audrey Hepburn, Emma Watson…What do these four have in common? They are all incredibly successful and all self-proclaimed introverts. The proof that there is so much more than an introvert than just being quiet. All us introverts ask is that you stop making such false judgements about us. We know how to have fun, trust me. Oh and you don’t need to tell us that we are ‘soooo’ quiet, we already know that.