10 Things I learnt when I moved into my first home

12 weeks ago, I moved into my first home and whilst it’s amazing, it’s not always all roses and sunshine. It’s imperfect and rough around the edges but it’s my imperfect home. I am incredibly proud of myself for buying a house and more so for doing it all on my own. It may have taken a lot of saving up but believe it or not, I didn’t have to fully sacrifice avocado toast!

Whilst I’ve been settling into the life of a home-owner, I couldn’t help but notice a lot of other ‘big’ bloggers and vloggers had also recently moved home. As much as I love their content and adore seeing their homes, I can’t help but feel that they aren’t reflective of real life. Or at least, they aren’t reflective of my life and my experience of becoming a home owner. But that’s the thing with the internet. It’s so easy to get caught up with comparison. Analysing the details of someone’s perfectly composed Instagram whilst wondering why you haven’t got your shit together like they do. But hey, who said you have to have your shit together anyway?

With all that said, I wanted to shed some light on the realities (for me) of becoming a home-owner:

1. AN UNFURNISHED HOME IS A HAPPY HOME

I have been in my house for almost 3 months and it’s still pretty unfurnished. The front room lacks the wingback chair of my dreams. The TV I’m using is borrowed and the only furniture in my bedroom that I’ve bought so far is a bed. I currently can’t have more than 1 guest because I don’t have enough seats and my desire for a home-cooked roast dinner has to wait until the day I finally get a dining table.

Yet I still come home every evening from work and instantly feel at home. Even when I first moved in and only had two camp chairs and slept on an airbed, it still felt like home. Naturally, I’ve watched a lot of moving home vlogs since buying my house. As I watch these vlogs where people move home and instantaneously furnish their whole house, I have to remind myself that it’s okay that I can’t afford to do that. It’s okay that my house will slowly come together like a 10,000 jigsaw.

It’s easy to get caught up staring longingly at their pinterest-esque homes but I equally love my current mismatched, empty and humble abode.

2. TRADESMEN ARE HARD WORK

You can have big plans for your house but the truth is you’ll more than likely, at some point or another, have to rely on a tradesmen to execute those plans. Sometimes, they’ll do just that. Finding a reliable tradesman isn’t always easy. Expect no-shows. Expect a lot of no-shows. You can also expect to go round in circles having conversations before you come to an agreement. Just be patient, do your research and don’t lose faith, everything will all come together!

3. YOU CAN’T DO IT ALL AT ONCE

Maybe this is a bit of a no-brainer for everyone, but unless you’ve saved up a lot of extra money then you’re not going to have the house of your dreams straight away. You can’t do it all at once.

If I could click my fingers right now, I’d have a brand new kitchen with extension, a new bathroom, the cutest garden and the rest of the house would be fully decorated and furnished. But alas, you can’t just click your fingers and get what you want. The harsh realities of adulthood.

Instead, I get to slowly watch my house blossom over time and if you ask me, that’s pretty exciting.

4. YOU CAN DECORATE HOWEVER YOU WANT

Decorating is potentially one of the most exciting things about owning a house but if you’re anything like me, you won’t be able to decide and you’ll want 817 different styles at once.

The brilliant thing about owning my own house is I get to decide how I want it to look. I don’t have to comprise on style to suit anyone else. Want pink fluffy cushions in every room? No problem! Personally, I don’t want pink fluffy cushions in every room but it’s nice knowing that I can style my house however I please. I’m free to add a touch of my personality to the house. For me, it’s sooo important for a house to have character. I want someone to walk through the front door and instantly get a glimpse at who I am just from how my house is styled.

5. DIY ISN’T SCARY

My mother is always insistent on telling me how I need a ‘man’ to help me or how I should find myself a ‘nice plumber’ or some other kind of tradesman. Truth is, I don’t. I’m not afraid to get in stuck in and give DIY a go. I don’t understand why it’s seen as a man’s job. I’m pretty certain men weren’t born being able to put shelves up so if they can do it, so can I.

This girl can do anything as good as a man…or at least, she sure as hell is willing to give it her best shot. Because if it all goes wrong, I’ll just get someone will skills to fix it. There’s no love lost.

With that said, I’ve also been battling trying to plumb a washing machine on my own for the past 4 days. It should be straight forward but alas, nothing ever is. I’m determined tomorrow is the day I finally manage to plumb and use the washing machine though.

6. NOBODY CAN JUDGE YOU OR TELL YOU WHAT TO DO

It’s your home and it’s your rules. There’s nobody else standing there telling you what you can and cannot do. I’m lucky in the sense that I didn’t really had anyone ‘laying down the laws’ when I lived at home – it felt more like a ‘house share’ than a family home. But with that said, it’s even greater knowing that you don’t have to account for someone else when you’re living alone.

Nobody can judge you for sitting on the kitchen worktop eating half a loaf of banana bread, whilst in nothing but a sweatshirt and your underwear. You can play your music as long as you like, without having to worry about it disrupting anyone else – apart from your neighbours, obviously. Please don’t be the obnoxious neighbour who blares out music.

Basically, living alone means living by your own rules. It’s all fun and games with a dash of adult responsibility.

7. PEOPLE WILL BE SHOCKED TO DISCOVER YOU OWN A HOUSE

Whenever I tell people I own my house, I’m met with a look of sheer surprise. Maybe that’s because I still look 14 years old or maybe it’s because buying a house is hella hard compared to when our parents were younger. It’s as if they can’t believe what they’re hearing. But hey, I did it. I bought a house and I truly believe that it’s possible for anyone else to do it too.

8. OTHERS ACT LIKE YOUR LIFE IS OVER NOW YOU HAVE A HOUSE

it’s as if the moment you open the front door to your new home, every other metaphorical door slams shut. Yet, I really don’t believe that’s true. Buying a house doesn’t automatically restrict any of your other ambitions. You can still chase your dreams whilst being a homeowner, so don’t let anyone tell you any different.

I know that if in, 2 years time, I decided I wanted to go travel the world, I still can. Being a homeowner doesn’t stop me from pursuing any of my other goals. Sure, it might make the road there a little bit longer due to time and money constraints but the road still exists.

9. YOU HAVE YOUR INDEPENDENCE

Okay so this kind of links back to ‘nobody can judge you…’ but having your own house means having your own independence and freedom. It means being responsible for your self. For me, that isn’t really anything new but I know for a lot of people, it will be.

Having my own house has simply confirmed to me how glad I am that I enjoy my own company. It also made me realise how thankful I am that I’ve been stubborn and independent since, well, as long as I can remember. I’m not very good at relying on other people or breaking down my walls and letting people close. It probably isn’t a great trait to have but hey, it means I love living on my own and having freedom to do everything myself.

10. IT’S A JOURNEY

The reality of becoming a homeowner is that it’s a journey. A long one. The kind of journey that’s going to be a little turbulent and bumpy at times. Heck, that journey might have a few dead-ends and turn-in-the-roads but it’s still a journey and frankly, I’m excited that my homeowning journey has just began.

I can’t wait to traverse the life of a homeowner, making my house a home and putting my (lack of) DIY skills to the test…

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7 Comments

  1. 7th September 2017 / 12:22 pm

    Amazing post! Im usually a stickler for skim reading posts but i can safely say i read every word of this! I cant wait to buy my own place albeit with my other half tho, but for all the reasons you listed. The independence and freedom is a big highlight for me and the decorating. I cant wait to be able to put my own stamp on things! If the picture in the post is of your bedroom its already gorgeous with those side tables and fluffy rugs! Good luck in your new house!

    Kylie | http://www.firstforeverything.co.uk

    • Tasmin
      7th September 2017 / 10:51 pm

      Oh wow, that’s an absolute honour! Thanks for reading, lovely :). The independence is the best part (after buying lots of cute homeware of course). I wish the photo was my bedroom…it’s actually a showroom from when I visited the Ideal Home Show in Manchester but it’s my ideal style for a bedroom! I need all the cozy, fluffy and natural vibes please!
      Thanks sweetie and best of luck to you and your other half for buying a house too! I can’t wait to see how your journey goes
      xx
      Tasmin

  2. 7th September 2017 / 8:51 pm

    Loved this post, I hope to be getting my first home soon so I appreciated the honesty and insight from your words x

    • Tasmin
      7th September 2017 / 10:53 pm

      Thank you SO much Maya! I’m really glad the honesty helped you. I was a little nervous hitting publish but it was also really refreshing to do so :)! Good luck with your home-owning plans…it’ll be an exciting venture!
      xx

  3. 8th September 2017 / 1:52 pm

    Ah so good to read mrs! I typed up a post few days back about how lots of bloggers and vloggers are at the same stages in life with their first homes, etc. but seem to have it all sussed in the blink of an eye and how I think it’s completely un-relatable to the masses. I’m so glad it’s not just me that feels this way! It’s that type of thing which always puts me off throwing myself back into blogging, everything on here can seem to pristine and perfect and there doesn’t always seem to be a place for anyone who’s having to work their butts off to get there and do it themselves. The blogging world definitely needs more honesty about this stuff – taking some pictures this weekend for my post, but I think this post of yours can expect a nice little mention in there! xx

    • Tasmin
      10th September 2017 / 7:57 am

      Oh babe, I’m sooo glad it’s not just me who feels this way! It really does seem like everyone else has it figured out and have a smooth moving in journey. What you see on instagram/youtube/etc. just isn’t relatable for me. At least you can have comfort knowing that we’re in this together! We can stumble through our new houses together haha.

      I can’t wait to read your latest post. I’ll be straight there to read it. I think it’s time we throw some honesty and truth back into blogging, none of this glazed donut pristine content please…I want coffee stained backdrops and reality please.

      Tasmin
      xx
      p.s. coffee catch up soon please!

  4. 21st September 2017 / 2:25 pm

    I totally agree with what you’ve said here Tasmin and it does frustrate me a little that so many Youtube videos show them moving into a home and buying everything new straight away. This just isn’t reality for most people and I think the best way is to do it all up slowly and invest in pieces you love, just like you’re doing. We’ve owned our home for nearly 7 years now and we’re moving into our new home hopefully within the next month or so, yet we still have mismatched bedside tables and hand-me-down things and I don’t care! Like you say, it takes ages to discover what your style really is and how you want every room to look, so I think it’s nice to take your time and figure out exactly how your perfect decor will look before buying everything x

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